Judy Gonsalves

My donor story begins with, sadly, an ending. I lost my older brother Jack, on Dec 23, 2019. We were seven siblings; all relatively close in age, growing up on large ranches out in the country.  We had plenty of chores; yet we managed to find a good amount of fun and maybe even a little bit of mischief during those endlessly long, warm, golden California days of our childhood. Even as we went our separate directions as adults, our large family gatherings continue to be reliably full of life with laughter, food, drink, often dancing, and much reminiscing.

Jack endeavored to keep his cancer diagnosis private, primarily because he thought he would get better. During his life and then 18-month battle, my logical, detailed-oriented, highly analytical civil engineer brother had done much and traveled afar, but in the end he had not settled his estate. In his waning days he was just barely able to initial a Power of Attorney document to another sibling. No judgment here, just a very sad observance.  

After returning to Homer that January, and processing my loss of a sibling, and life in general, I turned to my husband and said, “We need to get our affairs in order.” Our last will was 20+ years old and terribly outdated. Our children were now adults, I had retired, and our assets had changed. So, we set up our ‘virtual’ meetings with our lawyer. When part of the estate planning included an option for planned giving to a nonprofit of my choice, it was almost like an epiphany.  I knew what to do.

I didn’t have to think twice about which nonprofit I would name. I’ve always loved public libraries.  I love their book smells, their depth and their opportunity. I enjoy my time and work with the Friends of the Homer Public Library as a board member, and, well, It. Just. Fits. Jack also loved libraries. He was a voracious reader and a critical thinker and we could disagree just as easily as we could agree when we discussed books. I can still hear him say, during our ‘discussions,’ “Judy, you’re not being logical.”

Losing a sibling for the first time is undeniably hard. The gap in our sibling line-up photos still makes me wince. However, I can now consider our recent estate planning as a gift to us as well as to our children. As importantly, I view this planned gift to the Friends of the Homer Public Library as an indirect and poignant gift from Jack. Life is temporary. A legacy to libraries is forever. In hindsight, Jack would agree this was a ‘logical’ thing for me to do. So, please have foresight, and consider planned giving in your estate, to whatever pokes your heart. I do hope it’s the Friends of the Homer Public Library.